" Don't ask the world to change....you change first."

— Anthony de Mello

" The one who would be constant in happiness must frequently change."

— Anthony de Mello

" We see people and things not as they are, but as we are."

— Anthony de Mello

" If you find me charming, it means that right now you’re in a good mood, nothing more."

— Anthony de Mello

" You’re never so centered on yourself as when you’re depressed."

— Anthony de Mello

" Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality."

— Anthony de Mello

" To know reality you have to know beyond knowing."

— Anthony de Mello

" Happiness is a state of nonillusion, of dropping the illusion."

— Anthony de Mello

" So you must “receive” your demons, because when you fight them, you empower them."

— Anthony de Mello

" Live your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit."

— Anthony de Mello

"What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you."

— Anthony de Mello

" We do not have a fear of the unknown. What we fear is giving up the known."

— Anthony de Mello

"Live your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit."

— Anthony de Mello

" If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth."

— Anthony de Mello

" Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance."

— Anthony de Mello

" Both what you run from and what you yearn for are within you."

— Anthony de Mello

" When you fight something, you're tied to it forever. As long as you're fighting it, you’re giving it power."

— Anthony de Mello

" You don't have to add anything in order to be happy; you've got to drop something."

— Anthony de Mello

" You see persons and things not as they are but as you are."

— Anthony de Mello

"You can never be free as long as you have an ego to defend."

— Anthony de Mello